When I first started meditating, the concept of non-judgment was the first thing that I learned.
Judgment is how we make sense of the world. It’s how we make sense of other people. It’s how we make sense of ourselves.
Non-judgment says the following:
“It’s not good. It’s not bad. It just is.”
Imagine looking at something through that lens.
There’s lots of traffic on your way home from work. Judgment says “I hate this! It’s going to take me longer to get home! I have to sit in this crap! It absolutely sucks!”
Those judgments produce a level of suffering. You’re thinking that this traffic happened to you and it’s preventing you from getting what you want.
This causes suffering.
Looking at traffic with a neutral, non-judgment stance says that it is just traffic. That’s all. There’s no positive or negative connotation to it. It’s just traffic.
The reality is that there’s traffic. You can’t change it. You can reduce your suffering by looking at it through the lens of non-judgment.
When I first really got into meditation, I was suffering greatly. I was in the middle of a divorce, and I had just buried my father. Learning non-judgment helped me reduce my suffering.
What’s something that you absolutely hate? Can you reduce your suffering by looking at it with non-judgment?