2018 is coming to a close. As usual, I’m getting reflective. I wish for you what I wish for myself in 2019: freedom and impact.
Freedom to do what you want with whom you want, and the ability to make the kind of impact in the world that you want.
I hope that next year, and every year after that, you invest in yourself. Money, time, resources, and everything else you can possibly invest.
You are the most important person in your life. If you’re not ok, then the people in your life who depend on you aren’t ok either.
Take your self-care up a notch
I can’t emphasize enough how important self-care is. I’m not saying this because it’s trendy and because everyone with a blog or a social media account now has the ability to pose as a health coach, life coach, and every other kind of coach.
I’m not saying this because it’s popular and because people eat up motivational content.
I’m saying this because I’m living it. I am living, breathing proof that self-care can change your life.
Self-care helped me put myself back together
I started meditating, running, and eating better in 2015 in the wake of a tough time in my life. I had the opportunity to start fresh and make my life however I wanted it.
The more I focused on meditation, nutrition, and exercise, the more I started noticing unhealthy patterns that I hadn’t noticed before. I started noticing when my anxiety arose. I started noticing coping mechanisms.
I started noticing low self-esteem. Not in the midst of actually feeling it, but just noticing it as an impartial observer.
Meditation changed everything for me. It really does change your brain and gives you the power to observe your patterns instead of simply being swept away by them.
Finally having a complete picture
The biggest thing that I noticed, as a whole, is that I felt very insecure in the world and doubted my ability to handle things.
This explains why I’ve lived a good portion of my life at half-mast. Shying away. Not putting myself out there. Wanting to please other people. Being afraid to speak. Being afraid to rock the boat.
Luckily for me, the self-care work that I’ve done over the last three years has helped me believe in myself. I got healthy. I lost weight. I changed careers. I built an incredible community around me. I have impacted hundreds of lives through my work and my journey.
I gave myself the strength and confidence to break through my decades-old self-beliefs that are simply not true.
My life is a blessing
My life now is filled with light and love. I love what I do. I love who I spend time with. I love spending time with myself. I love all of life’s possibilities.
I love being at the beginning of mid-life and having a second chance to try this thing called life again.
This is what self-care does. There is no magic bullet. There is no specific formula that works in 30 days to make everything change for you.
You just have to believe that you’re worth it.
The self-loving mindset
The only bit of coaching I can give you for this is that mindset is key. When you eat something healthy, it’s not because you’re “being good” as opposed to “being bad.” You’re eating something healthy because it’s a loving act. Giving your body the nourishment that it needs is a loving act. Just like indulging in your favorite dessert is a loving act.
Exercising in whatever way you see fit, whether it be at the gym or out on the trails. is a loving act.
Giving yourself time to rest is a loving act.
Engaging in your hobbies is a loving act.
Spending time with people you love is a loving act.
Give yourself love and care in 2019
If I didn’t consistently give myself love, over and over and over again, for the past three years, I don’t know where I’d be. I would probably be ok, but I’d still be stuck in my anxiety and depression. I would most likely still be self-sabotaging and generally not treating myself well.
Self-love and self-care allows me to be fully who I am and to be grateful every day. Not every day is perfect. I still have my problems and frailties just like everyone else. But I am able to get through them and come out on the other side, still healthy, still happy, still me.
Give yourself love and care in 2019. Make that your goal. You deserve it. We all do.